Strange reaction to crystal (Hematite)

[Mandi]

I bought Hematite and it arrived in the post yesterday, but I didn't see it until this morning. When I unwrapped it, I felt a connection to it, and what I thought was positive energy (I'm a beginner with crystals, so I think I may have misinterpreted this energy - but I'll get to that).

I haven't cleansed it, as my boyfriend is home and I'm not telling him too much about this path of mine until I'm more confident with it.

I decided to keep the hematite close to me for a while, to try and form a 'connection' to it. After about two hours of it touching my skin, something strange happened. I began to feel very depressed. I'm in the middle of it now. I have a hollow feeling inside that I've felt in the midst of bad depression.

The strangest thing was that my boyfriend began being very loving and talkative with me, nearly at the exact same time as I began feeling depressed. This is rather unlike him; he isn't unkind, but he's very quiet and restrained. It wasn't because of my sadness, I said nothing of it and I was sitting outside away from him when he approached me.

Is it possible that the hematite had some strange double effect on me and my boyfriend - negative for me, positive for him? Maybe its more his kind of stone?

I'd suspect that it had some left over negative energy from people who held it previously, but my boyfriend's reaction puzzled me. Could I just be putting deeper meaning into all this than I should be?

Sorry for the long post. I hope someone can offer their opinions

[Aster Breo]

Is it possible that the hematite had some strange double effect on me and my boyfriend - negative for me, positive for him? Maybe its more his kind of stone?

I'd suspect that it had some left over negative energy from people who held it previously, but my boyfriend's reaction puzzled me. Could I just be putting deeper meaning into all this than I should be?

All of those things are possible, of course.

Some people are more sensitive both to objects and to other people's emotions than other people are. Your feelings of depression could have been totally unrelated, and your boyfriend could have just been picking up on your feelings.

But I do think different kinds of stones and different specimens of the same kind of stone have different energies and personalities. I also think the stone's form (rough crystal point, tumbled, faceted, cabochon, etc.) can effect its energy. I have problems wearing rough amethyst points, but not polished amethyst cabochons. That could be the specific specimens, but it's pretty consistent, so I think it's more about the cut. I've also noticed that I have better "relationships" with stones that have been cut, polished, and/or set specifically for me. I think that has something to do with the energies put into the stone by the person who worked on it, mostly subconsciously, but occasionally deliberately.

It's not uncommon for people to react strongly to hematite, both negatively and positively. F'ex, I can't wear hematite. There's something about the interaction between its energy and mine that causes hematite to shatter pretty quickly if I try to wear it. Ditto for my daughter. Other people find hematite to be very effective for shielding and grounding.

I'd say, try ritually cleansing the hematite (but don't use salt, since that can damage some stones) then give it some time and see what happens. If you have additional negative feelings when you're touching or carrying the hematite, that stone is probably not for you. It might also be interesting to see if you and/or your boyfriend have reactions to other kinds of stones or other pieces of hematite.

I had a diamond ring that was passed down in my family. It's a beautiful stone and an equally beautiful setting, and I love it. But I noticed over time that, when I was wearing it, I had all sorts of negative, buzzing energy. I tried cleansing it every way I could think of, but nothing changed. I finally gave up and gave the ring to my daughter, who does not get the same "vibe" from it, even though she's as sensitive to those things as I am, and sometimes more sensitive. I don't know why, but that ring did not want me to wear it.

Your mileage may vary, of course.

[SunflowerP]

Is it possible that the hematite had some strange double effect on me and my boyfriend - negative for me, positive for him? Maybe its more his kind of stone?

I'd suspect that it had some left over negative energy from people who held it previously, but my boyfriend's reaction puzzled me. Could I just be putting deeper meaning into all this than I should be?

I don't have any ideas about your BF's reaction. If it's that unusual for him, you could try asking about whether there was any particular reason - "I liked it, but I was really surprised, because you don't usually...;" alternately, if it's not unusual enough to remark on, it could be purely coincidental, or if there's any previous pattern of him being sensitive to, or in tune with, your moods, it might just be that. Hmm, okay, I guess I was mistaken; I did have ideas, though nothing more concrete than that.

As for your own reaction - one of the things hematite is especially known for is grounding, and one of the things depression often involves is a lack of energy. I'm hypersensitive to hematite myself; I can't even carry it in a pocket for any length of time, much less have it in contact with bare skin (the one piece I have, I keep wrapped in silk, for the extra magical/energetic insulation silk provides - and I'm definitely not of the "wrap everything in silk" school of thought; I find cotton or whatever adequate for most purposes, assuming I even think something needs to be wrapped at all), because it sucks so much of my energy.

IME, hematite is one of the more common stones for people to have an over-reaction to, though I've known enough people with over-reactions to one or another stone that I figure almost any stone could have someone who reacts too strongly, or otherwise in negative/undesired ways, to it.

I can't say for certain this is the case with you, but your description of what happened isn't out of line with my own experiences.

Sunflower

[Dark Midnight]

Is it possible that the hematite had some strange double effect on me and my boyfriend - negative for me, positive for him? Maybe its more his kind of stone?

I'd suspect that it had some left over negative energy from people who held it previously, but my boyfriend's reaction puzzled me. Could I just be putting deeper meaning into all this than I should be?

Like Aster and Sunflower, I can't wear Hematite. It really disagrees with me and I hate the greasy, slimy feeling that I get from it. I can work with it, but I just don't like it. My best friend Steve however, loves the stuff. It feels just fine to him-warm, strong and comforting (like Bloodstone does for me). People have different reactions to the energies that crystals have. It isn't at all unusual.

[Mandi]

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Thanks everyone, you've given me a lot to think about. I did ask my boyfriend, but he'd forgotten about it, and he said something like 'I dunno' (standard response haha).

I buried the hematite in the earth for about 24 hours and I'm getting better vibes from it now, but I'm a bit confused. My emotions are still going up and down as they're prone to lol. So in other words, I'm back to normal even though I'm keeping it close.

I think I'll stop wearing it close to me, and just try it out while grounding. This is the first crystal that I've bought, and having any reaction to it all was very good for instilling my faith in crystals in general, so something good came from it

[cigfran]

Like Aster and Sunflower, I can't wear Hematite. It really disagrees with me and I hate the greasy, slimy feeling that I get from it. I can work with it, but I just don't like it. My best friend Steve however, loves the stuff. It feels just fine to him-warm, strong and comforting (like Bloodstone does for me). People have different reactions to the energies that crystals have. It isn't at all unusual.

I'm not a magic minerals person, but this is all oddly familiar. I got a hematite ring once just because I liked the look of it, but I can't wear it. My finger aches as if I had premature arthritis when I do.

Very strange to see that this is a more common reaction than I would have thought.

[Marilyn/Absentminded]

Very strange to see that this is a more common reaction than I would have thought.

It really is. I love the look and feel of hematite and have several pieces. Every time I've gotten a ring of it, though, it has shattered within a couple of days. It may just be more fragile in that form than others, but it feels yucky when it does it, so I just look at and admire the rings now, rather than buy them.

My husband has Crohn's disease and can get a bad flare-up from stress. When he has an iffy contract or an unpleasant boss he carries a piece in his pocket and directs all the stress to it. Several pieces have shattered on him, but that's much better, to my way of thinking, than a week or two in the hospital.

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[HeartShadow]

It really is. I love the look and feel of hematite and have several pieces. Every time I've gotten a ring of it, though, it has shattered within a couple of days. It may just be more fragile in that form than others, but it feels yucky when it does it, so I just look at and admire the rings now, rather than buy them.

My husband has Crohn's disease and can get a bad flare-up from stress. When he has an iffy contract or an unpleasant boss he carries a piece in his pocket and directs all the stress to it. Several pieces have shattered on him, but that's much better, to my way of thinking, than a week or two in the hospital.

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and I NEED to have hematite on me if I'm going into a stressful situation - it keeps me from having anxiety issues.

But if I wear it when I'm otherwise calm, it can send me into a depression spiral - I get all sad and stuff.

[SunflowerP]

It really is. I love the look and feel of hematite and have several pieces. Every time I've gotten a ring of it, though, it has shattered within a couple of days. It may just be more fragile in that form than others, but it feels yucky when it does it, so I just look at and admire the rings now, rather than buy them.

It is, purely on the level of physical properties, a fragile and easily-shattered stone, and being carved into a toroidal shape (ring) exacerbates this (it's a more fragile shape for most if not all stones). OTOH, they generally last more than a couple of days - the lifespan of a hematite ring is more typically expressed in weeks or months. So it sounds like, in some way or other (physical, energetic, emotional, etc), you stress the heck out of them.

Sunflower